The Truth About Love
{SIDEBAR} Toastmaster Aynsley: “Michelle’s speech today is about homo sapiens and their huge aortic pumps. (A moment of silence). It is about humans and their hearts. Michelle was inspired by a book, “The Truth About Love” by Pat Love. Yes, those two rhymes. She felt so inspired by this book that she would like to share the inspiration to everyone. So everyone, please welcome Michelle Ofreneo’s the L-word”.
Speech#4
Thank you, Madame Toastmaster. Fellow Toastmasters and most welcomed guests, what I am going to talk you today is about LOVE, Romantic Love.
Have you ever been in a situation where after being in a perfect relationship, all of sudden you do not feel so in love anymore? After this speech, you will learn that love has cycles. Do not easily give up if you feel that you are falling out of love. This could be an opportunity for a breakthrough for a chance of true love.
The speech will be divided into the four stages of true love. For you to easily remember these stages, I will describe them in a form of songs. This four are the four stages of True Love.
Do you remember the first time you fall in love?
The sight of that unforgettable face
That gorgeous beautiful smile
The Scent of the Roses
The fragrance of that perfume
The taste of those Chocolates
Music is everywhere. Even when you have a flat tire, there is music.
This is the first stage: Infatuation.
For you to easily remember, just remember the song: “I believe I can Fly". I believe I can fly, I believe I can touch the sky, spread my wings and fly away. This is the stage when you feel nothing but flying. Fly, fly, fly so high. It’s the stage when Mother Nature produces chemical reactions in our brains. These chemicals are love drugs responsible for the heart pumping, the sweaty palms, and blood rushing to the face. We are so high on these drugs that our personalities and characteristics change when we are with the other person. Even when you have a flat tire, you will feel like life is an adventure. It is also the stage when you feel I am on top of the world. You care a lot for each other. We do not know why but we feel inspired by the other person’s presence. We are our best. Pat Love warns not to mistake it for true love. The sad thing is that these chemical reactions in the brain last only six months and then it gradually wanes away. Scientists said that by the end of the second year it is completely gone.
Enters the second level of love: Post-Rapture Stage.
Has anyone of you heard the song of Lady Gaga’s “Caught in a Bad Romance.?” For those of you who do not know the song, the song goes like: “Ra, Ra, Ram, Bu Rar, caught in a bad romance”. The post-rapture stage is just like that. It has a lot of Ra Ra Ram Bu Rar’s. This is the stage when you hear nothing but complaints: “you don’t make time for me anymore; you don’t do this; you don’t do that; you don’t love me anymore.” It also the stage when you feel bored. It is the same familiar face every day. You get back to your old habits. Little habits that used to be endearing now starts to be annoying. You fight almost every day and the next day you can’t even remember what you fight about yesterday. Pat Love warns that this is a stage that most people will break-up but it is actually the stage when you can take the opportunity to learn more about your partner.
Enters the 3rd stage of love: Discovery.
I am sure that everyone has heard the song: “True Colours.” The song goes like: “I see your true colours shining. True colours, that's why I love you.” Discovery is the opportunity to assess you and your partner. What are the shared positive values, dreams, compatibilities? Discovery is the stage where you can do something to heal the relationship. Back in the infatuation stage, you do not have to do anything because you were naturally inspired. Now you have to behave differently, loving behaviours brings back those loving feelings. Get in touch with your unmet desire. Rather than nagging say: “Honey, I love you but why don’t you go out with your friends today so I can spend my time at home to catch up with my paper works". Be sensible. Be nice.
The final stage is the Commitment Stage.
There is one song I can relate to this stage, it’s called “Through the Years.” The song goes like this: “Through the years together we were strong. I like the love we made and I’m so glad I’ve stayed right here with you through the years.”
There are two kinds of commitment: the restraint one and the dedicated one. When I talk about commitment, I mean the dedicated one. Ask yourself the question: If somebody will give you 1 million dollars, will you still love your honey? If someone else good-lucking will love you undyingly will you still stay with your sweetheart? This could be the same person whom you might have to exchange their diapers someday.
Conclusion:
Ah, the power of love. Your heart beats faster, your eyes open wider, your energy heightened. So high that some people will say as if you smoke weed. Couples should remember that love has highs and lows. Remember that there are four stages. If you can’t remember the names, just remember the song. Realise what stage you are. “I believe I can fly” when you are addicted. You are in the infatuation stage. When you start feeling down you felt like you are trapped in a Bad Romance and you hear the RA RA RAM BU RAR’s you are in the post-rapture stage. True Colours: Take the time to discover the good things about your partner and heal the relationship. Through the years: Remind yourself of commitment. If both partners will follow this advice, someday the woman will be singing: “You‘re Still the One” and the man will be singing “Darling, you look wonderful tonight” despite the grey hair and the wrinkles all over. Remember, true love is not just a feeling; it is an ongoing commitment to act in a loving way.
Thank you.
Speech#4
Thank you, Madame Toastmaster. Fellow Toastmasters and most welcomed guests, what I am going to talk you today is about LOVE, Romantic Love.
Have you ever been in a situation where after being in a perfect relationship, all of sudden you do not feel so in love anymore? After this speech, you will learn that love has cycles. Do not easily give up if you feel that you are falling out of love. This could be an opportunity for a breakthrough for a chance of true love.
The speech will be divided into the four stages of true love. For you to easily remember these stages, I will describe them in a form of songs. This four are the four stages of True Love.
Do you remember the first time you fall in love?
The sight of that unforgettable face
That gorgeous beautiful smile
The Scent of the Roses
The fragrance of that perfume
The taste of those Chocolates
Music is everywhere. Even when you have a flat tire, there is music.
This is the first stage: Infatuation.
For you to easily remember, just remember the song: “I believe I can Fly". I believe I can fly, I believe I can touch the sky, spread my wings and fly away. This is the stage when you feel nothing but flying. Fly, fly, fly so high. It’s the stage when Mother Nature produces chemical reactions in our brains. These chemicals are love drugs responsible for the heart pumping, the sweaty palms, and blood rushing to the face. We are so high on these drugs that our personalities and characteristics change when we are with the other person. Even when you have a flat tire, you will feel like life is an adventure. It is also the stage when you feel I am on top of the world. You care a lot for each other. We do not know why but we feel inspired by the other person’s presence. We are our best. Pat Love warns not to mistake it for true love. The sad thing is that these chemical reactions in the brain last only six months and then it gradually wanes away. Scientists said that by the end of the second year it is completely gone.
Enters the second level of love: Post-Rapture Stage.
Has anyone of you heard the song of Lady Gaga’s “Caught in a Bad Romance.?” For those of you who do not know the song, the song goes like: “Ra, Ra, Ram, Bu Rar, caught in a bad romance”. The post-rapture stage is just like that. It has a lot of Ra Ra Ram Bu Rar’s. This is the stage when you hear nothing but complaints: “you don’t make time for me anymore; you don’t do this; you don’t do that; you don’t love me anymore.” It also the stage when you feel bored. It is the same familiar face every day. You get back to your old habits. Little habits that used to be endearing now starts to be annoying. You fight almost every day and the next day you can’t even remember what you fight about yesterday. Pat Love warns that this is a stage that most people will break-up but it is actually the stage when you can take the opportunity to learn more about your partner.
Enters the 3rd stage of love: Discovery.
I am sure that everyone has heard the song: “True Colours.” The song goes like: “I see your true colours shining. True colours, that's why I love you.” Discovery is the opportunity to assess you and your partner. What are the shared positive values, dreams, compatibilities? Discovery is the stage where you can do something to heal the relationship. Back in the infatuation stage, you do not have to do anything because you were naturally inspired. Now you have to behave differently, loving behaviours brings back those loving feelings. Get in touch with your unmet desire. Rather than nagging say: “Honey, I love you but why don’t you go out with your friends today so I can spend my time at home to catch up with my paper works". Be sensible. Be nice.
The final stage is the Commitment Stage.
There is one song I can relate to this stage, it’s called “Through the Years.” The song goes like this: “Through the years together we were strong. I like the love we made and I’m so glad I’ve stayed right here with you through the years.”
There are two kinds of commitment: the restraint one and the dedicated one. When I talk about commitment, I mean the dedicated one. Ask yourself the question: If somebody will give you 1 million dollars, will you still love your honey? If someone else good-lucking will love you undyingly will you still stay with your sweetheart? This could be the same person whom you might have to exchange their diapers someday.
Conclusion:
Ah, the power of love. Your heart beats faster, your eyes open wider, your energy heightened. So high that some people will say as if you smoke weed. Couples should remember that love has highs and lows. Remember that there are four stages. If you can’t remember the names, just remember the song. Realise what stage you are. “I believe I can fly” when you are addicted. You are in the infatuation stage. When you start feeling down you felt like you are trapped in a Bad Romance and you hear the RA RA RAM BU RAR’s you are in the post-rapture stage. True Colours: Take the time to discover the good things about your partner and heal the relationship. Through the years: Remind yourself of commitment. If both partners will follow this advice, someday the woman will be singing: “You‘re Still the One” and the man will be singing “Darling, you look wonderful tonight” despite the grey hair and the wrinkles all over. Remember, true love is not just a feeling; it is an ongoing commitment to act in a loving way.
Thank you.
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